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Ball gags have been used by D/s couples for years, but many are still unfamiliar with them.
There are different kinds of bondage gags and if you are curious to know more, we present to you Ball Gag 101, a crash course in this super kinky sex toy that will help you take your new dominant and submissive relationship to the next level.
In this article, you’ll learn about the different kinds of ball gags, what they’re for, and their kink factor.
Ball gags are used primarily by BDSM couples, although couples who are adventurous even if not in a BDSM commitment may try using ball gags and other bondage devices.
In this kind of relationship, there is a dominant often called master, and a submissive who is sometimes called a slave.
BDSM requires a high level of trust since the submissive places all the power in the dominant person.
The master’s role is to love and take care of the submissive and tell him/her what to do.
The master may be male or female. He or she is to be loved, trusted, obeyed, and respected.
This is where ball gags come in. In many bondage plays and other BDSM scenes, the submissive is placed in a powerless or helpless state, tied up and put in a submissive position.
If the master wants the submissive to stop talking or want to humiliate them or punish them for something they’ve done wrong, they can make the sub wear ball gags.
It is a good way to show dominance over the wearer and it is the submissive who wears the gag while the dominant observes or manhandles the wearer.
WHAT’S A BALL GAG?
What’s a ball gag? It is as its name suggests – a ball used to gag someone’s mouth. The ball is usually made of rubber or silicone and has a strap or harness.
The ball is placed in the mouth behind the teeth, with the straps going around the head to keep it in place.
A ball gag harness is an ahead bondage device used to keep different kinds of gags in place.
In this instance, the ball gag harness is used to secure the ball inside the wearer’s mouth, so they will not be able to remove it or spit it out easily.
When a submissive wears a ball gag, he or she cannot speak actual words, more like groans and grunts.
If the wearer forces himself or herself to talk, it will cause drooling. Ball Gags are fun sex toys, whether in a BDSM relationship or not.
The wearer will have their mouth open make muffled noises and even drool which is a total turn-on for those with this kind of fetish.
HOW TO USE A BALL GAG
Before buying a ball gag, you and your partner may need to take a little time off for research. You see there are different kinds of ball gags and their use differs as well.
It is also important to know the measurements for the wearer to be comfortable without losing the essence of the gag.
Moreover, the couple both should know how to use a ball gag, as in both dom and sub.
SAFEWORD
In using a ball gag, it is important to maintain a safeword or a variation of it.
Since the wearer will not be able to talk, you and your partner can devise a different kind of safe word to stop the action if it’s getting too much.
Here are some suggestions: repeated noise the wearer can make, an object in hand that the wearer drops, or repeated movements like stomping your feet, snapping your fingers, etc.
Having agreed on a safe word or gesture will not diminish the excitement and kink level of the roleplaying game.
Yes, primarily, the excitement comes from the fear and humiliation the sub experiences in surrendering to the dominant, but it is always better to be safe than sorry.
HOW TO
When you’ve found the right ball gag, and have established a safeword, now is the time to use it.
During your roleplay, the dom slides the ball gently into the wearer’s wide-open mouth.
Don’t force it in, give the wearer time to adjust to the feeling of the ball in the mouth and when the sub’s alright with the ball gagged in his or her mouth, you can fasten the straps.
Take note: the ball gag should not hurt or cause the wearer’s jaw to ache.
DOs and DONTs
- DON’T use a ball gag when the wearer has a cold or a runny nose. There should be no kind of sinus congestion because the wearer will have his or her mouth obstructed, leaving breathing primarily from the nose. The wearer may suffocate if they can’t breathe through their nose due to a cold while a ball is in their mouth.
- DON’T leave the ball gag wearer unattended.
- DON’T play with the ball gag when the wearer has an upset stomach.
- DO have the wearer sitting up or standing up, preferably with their heads pointing down or bowing when they wear the ball gag. This makes the saliva build-up drip down and not back up the throat causing more gagging and difficulty in breathing.
- DO check the time. The wearer should ask for the ball to be taken out after 10 to 20 minutes at a time or when it becomes too painful. Especially for beginners, they shouldn’t wear the ball gag for too long. They might end up dislocating their jaws.
- DO check the material used in making the ball. Since the ball is in the wearer’s mouth, choose a ball that is made of safe materials, phthalates-free.
TYPES OF BALL GAGS
Ball Gags According to Materials Used
Most ball gags are made of plastic, metal, and even candy. There are silicone ball gags, breathable ball gags, double ball gags, and more.
Leather gags are made of leather and are also called stuffed leather gags.
The most common materials used in making the ball for the gag are:
- Jelly (a rubber-like material that is soft and squishy, comes in different colors, and is best for beginners),
- Rubber or Latex, Plastic (maybe solid and hard or similar to a whiffle ball, best for drool aficionados),
- Foam rubber (soft and pliable, but not durable and hard to clean.)
There are candy ball gags made out of the jawbreaker candies.
Balls Gags by sizes
When you buy ball gags, you should make sure the size fits the wearer’s mouth measurements.
There is a huge ball gag for the more experienced submissive, a small ball gag for the beginners, and even softball gags that make it easy to slip inside the mouth and behind the teeth.
Of course, there are three sizes to choose from small, medium, and larger.
- Small ball gags are approximately 1.5 inches in diameter. They are perfect for smaller built women.
- Medium-sized ball gags are the standard size. They are approximately 1.67 to 1.75 inches in diameter.
- Large ball gags are for big guys and are approximately two inches in diameter.
Some manufacturers offer extra-small sizes that are approximately 1.0–1.25 inches in diameter and extra-large sizes ranging from 2.5–3.0 inches.
These extra-large ball gags do not need straps and are intense jaw-stretchers.
CLEANING BALL GAGS
Solid ball gags are easy to clean. Just rinse it with warm water after using a little toy cleaner and they’re good to go in your storage compartments.
Others require being rinsed with very hot water, or with an antiseptic such as rubbing alcohol to disinfect the ball.
There are materials you cannot sterilize, so you just basically rinse them thoroughly.
CONCLUSION
Ball gags are fun, but little tricky devices to use in BDSM roleplay or other exciting bedroom activities for the more adventurous couples out there.
Kidnappers and Captives are a fun game to play with these kinds of gags. Use with other bondage devices like a head harness for more kink in the kick.
With proper use, you’ll easily love using them to show your humility, your respect, and your love for your masters.
You can go online and search for different kinds of gags for sale. Order and get yours delivered to your doorstep in a day or two. It’s that easy.
But you need to make sure you take into consideration every safety precaution mentioned in this article to make the most out of your favorite ball gag.
Wasn’t that the simplest crash course you’ve ever taken on bondage devices?
I find a large ball gag very effective even when it is not fastend it is very difficult to get out of my mouth
when my girl friend fastens it tightly then then ties a neck tie over it i can hardly make a sound because of my small mouth which gags very easy . not to mention the rock hard erection i get.